The Trevor Project

The Trevor Project was founded by writer James Lecesne, director/producer Peggy Rajski and producer Randy Stone, creators of the 1994 Academy Award-winning short film, Trevor, a comedy/drama about a gay 13-year-old boy who, when rejected by friends because of his sexuality, makes an attempt to take his life.

When Trevor was scheduled to air on HBO in 1998, the filmmakers realized that some of the program’s teen viewers might be facing the same kind of crisis as Trevor, and began to search for an appropriate support line to broadcast during the airing. They discovered that no such helpline existed, and decided to dedicate themselves to forming what was, in their view, a much-needed resource: an organization to promote acceptance of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth, and to aid in crisis and suicide prevention among that group. Thus, The Trevor Project was born, and with seed funding provided by The Colin Higgins Foundation, The Trevor Helpline was established and became the first and only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth.

Today, in addition to operating the crisis and suicide prevention helpline, The Trevor Project provides online support to young people through the organization’s Web site, and also provides lifesaving guidance and vital resources to educators and parents.

I've been donating to this charity since my brother came out to me, unfortunately he was just as depressed and told me he seriously considered taking his own life due to my mother's religious beliefs. All is well now, but that was only because I stepped in, some people who are confused don't have that person to step in. I know this isn't a really serious forum, but I feel very strongly about this cause. Even reading up on it and passing it on gets the word out and makes a little bit of a difference.

Much Love,
Ana

Trevor Project Website: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/home1.aspx

Wish there was a /like (omg, you know, like in Facebook... wait... no, I am glad this isn't FB).

My cousin said his coming out was the most traumatic experience of his life and was on anti-depressants for some time. But, unfortunately that wasn't the worst thing I have experienced.

I had a friend at University who did commit suicide soon after coming out. He was Spanish and had a strained relationship with his father throughout his life. Mainly because his father didn't like his son's "lifestyle" (prior to coming out he "played straight" as he used to say). Days after finally coming out, he slashed his wrists and jumped. His father disowned him, and didn't even come to the funeral (gay AND a suicide was just too much for the bigotted prick).

So, yeah, The Trevor Project is brilliant Anaei. Just wish my friend had known about it.

Thank you two moderators for your swift actions, i'm just glad I wasen't around too see it. And Grufftoof i'm sorry to hear about your friends, but at least now there is a place where people can get help, that's why I really love it.

From what I heard Exilius wasn't insultive in anyway, and that his apology post to Anaei was deleted aswell. Shame. I say.

I support it. Not because it's charity (I rarely ever support charities), but for my own personal reasons I'll refrain from discussing.

Such a sad world we live in. I will seriously consider making a Donation.

The charity looks remarkable, kudos to them alas I too have to say shame to the deletion of the apology that I managed to see before it's deletion.

Shame to see that although bad things are pointed out and removed, as they rightfully should, someone simply attempting to make up for their mistake gets penalised for no good reason.

I personally think supporting these people with money is not a very good idea, In my view it is better to show them you support them by deeds or helping them. So they know at least some people support them and that they are still who they are and still stay the same even after they have come out.

But it is a nice gesture anyway, So good luck with this all.

Archal/Hazrah/Vaneyk wrote:This post is in no way edited by a mod. I just like blue. Anyway, I don't really feel like this is the place to advertise for charity. No matter how good the cause is.

Summarized, I now feel like a collector just visted my door, and I feel bad for not caring or donating.

I never said to care, or give. I'm just spreading the word.

First of. I have no problem at all that this is posted here. At least it creates some awareness of the problem, even if you don't donate. And you are not obligated to donate nor are you expected to. I personall don't mind a more serious topic among all the rubish thats posted here usually.

Second it's sad to see people would be so judgemental about someone's sexual orientation especially a parent. This does make me feel blessed tho with my own parents. Who always let me know they love me no matter what my sexuality would be or what choices I make in live, exception might be if I would commit a terrible crime but I wouldn't want it any other way to be honest.

I also prize myself lucky to live in a country that is relativly friendly towards gay and bi-sexual people, not because as I am gay but because they are just as anyone else, normall people. Although even here there are judgemental people. But it's more excepted then in most parts of the world. Gays should in my opinion just be considered normall. That's why I loved a certain dutch comedy/love movie . Which followed different kind of people like a married couple with childeren, recently devorced people, singles and a gay couple who were just about to marry. The nice thing is it wasn't the foccus of the movie. It was treated as normall as all the other relationships in the movie and it wasn't made an issue that they were gay. Just as it should be irl.

Anaei wrote:I never said to care, or give. I'm just spreading the word.

And even to some degree this can be considered -very- annoying to people.
Like someone stated, those salesmen and woman at your house. Those people at the call center. Those annoying commercials from tell-sell. The Jehovah's witnesses all are just spreading their word.
And even if some are for a good cause and you do it with the best of intentions, it can still be experienced as nosy and rude behavior and makes certain people guilty about stuff they do not want to feel, or guilty about not giving anything.

Rhebeca wrote:

Anaei wrote:I never said to care, or give. I'm just spreading the word.

And even to some degree this can be considered -very- annoying to people.
Like someone stated, those salesmen and woman at your house. Those people at the call center. Those annoying commercials from tell-sell. The Jehovah's witnesses all are just spreading their word.
And even if some are for a good cause and you do it with the best of intentions, it can still be experienced as nosy and rude behavior and makes certain people guilty about stuff they do not want to feel, or guilty about not giving anything.

There is very much posted here I find annoying but you don't hear me complain about it. I just move on and find something that's more to my liking. And if you feel guilty about not giving anything. Well sorry but just suck it up. Anyway enough with the complaining. If you don't like this thread just move on to something else (Edit: I mean this in general not specifically aimed at you Rhebeca).

Lexius wrote:There is very much posted here I find annoying but you don't hear me complain about it. I just move on and find something that's more to my liking. And if you feel guilty about not giving anything. Well sorry but just suck it up. Anyway enough with the complaining. If you don't like this thread just move on to something else (Edit: I mean this in general not specifically aimed at you Rhebeca).

First of all i am not offended or feel guilty about anything in this post as i said before i believe more in doing deeds and being there for someone then donating money to a foundation.
And in my last post i was just trying in pointing out some things out for Anaei that not reach reaction might be one of support.

Rhebeca wrote:

Lexius wrote:There is very much posted here I find annoying but you don't hear me complain about it. I just move on and find something that's more to my liking. And if you feel guilty about not giving anything. Well sorry but just suck it up. Anyway enough with the complaining. If you don't like this thread just move on to something else (Edit: I mean this in general not specifically aimed at you Rhebeca).

First of all i am not offended or feel guilty about anything in this post as i said before i believe more in doing deeds and being there for someone then donating money to a foundation.
And in my last post i was just trying in pointing out some things out for Anaei that not reach reaction might be one of support.

I understand, I figured that from your earlier post, that's why I added it wasn't aimed at you specifically but just in gerenal. I just felt like expressing my opinion about people fiinding this "annoying" in general. My apologies that I did not make that clear enough in my post that I wasn't talking about you.

If people dont like this thread and say its like advertisements etc, they should realise advertisements are there and you cant get rid of them, this is a thread that you willingly came on to.

Thank you for making the thread Anaei, your putting a well-needed message across, and I hope a few people from this site donate to it.

Lexius wrote:
Second it's sad to see people would be so judgemental about someone's sexual orientation especially a parent. This does make me feel blessed tho with my own parents. Who always let me know they love me no matter what my sexuality would be or what choices I make in live.

I'm not attempting to derail the main topic here but, can you really be so sure of that (Well, being in an accepting country, you probably are - but you still can't be certain)? There are alot of people who think the same, and the vast majority get disappointed. I know from personal experience. I was given a confused glare so intense that it felt as if I had just ruined my parent's lives. Then, the interrogation... If you're lucky (like myself), that is all you'll receive - and your parents will merely discard your view as "too young to know" (me again...) or very slowly accept it. For the more unlucky, people can get disowned or kicked out. I can most certainly say, for me (even though having got off lightly), I felt literally like the Spawn of Satan for a few days after having told. My parents being religious Christians, I looked up on the internet for positive Bible Scriptures. Nothing except negativity. I posted on forums for advice, and got good replies, but it still couldn't fill the agonizing guilt I was feeling. I still live with that guilt to this very day, and made an oath to my parents that I would not tell anyone whom I know in real life... Which, as anyone who comes "Out of the closet" to their parents would know, it is relatively hard to resist...

Anyway, back on topic, it is mostly parental denial, harassment at school and religion working against LGBTQ people that is causing the increase in deaths, as well as an inability to cope. Quite frankly, there is very little that can be done about the first (except, perhaps, raising children to learn of various beliefs of sexuality), the second could be solved by increasing discipline and third can only be solved when the churches choose to lessen their judgement on us. Although, I admit, the hotline/project is a good start, society needs to take further steps before real change can happen.

Etular wrote:

Lexius wrote:
Second it's sad to see people would be so judgemental about someone's sexual orientation especially a parent. This does make me feel blessed tho with my own parents. Who always let me know they love me no matter what my sexuality would be or what choices I make in live.

I'm not attempting to derail the main topic here but, can you really be so sure of that (Well, being in an accepting country, you probably are - but you still can't be certain)? There are alot of people who think the same, and the vast majority get disappointed.

I still live with that guilt to this very day, and made an oath to my parents that I would not tell anyone whom I know in real life...

Talking for myself. I think I know my parents well enough to make that judgment. For one thing they aren't religious, neither am I. Also we talked about these kind of things from time to time and expressed our opinions about the subject. However the situation never occured, so I guess I can not be 100% sure. But, I am 99,99% sure.

I find it alarming that you are forced to keep it a secret in your real life btw. As how I see it you have nothing to feel guilty about. I hope your parents can look past their religion one day and see how ridiculous they are behaving.

I apologise to those who see this as an 'advert'. I just felt comfortable enough with so many of you to just let you know something a little more about myself. I spent a summer helping answer the helplines and I am quite proud of it. At the same time I know that word of mouth is so great, that's why I really brought it here. Just so anyone out there who thinks they are alone, know they are not.

Well, you got my support. As long as they don't exactly go around encouraging others to become homosexual or bisexual, s'fine by me. Just live your life the way you want to live it.

Lexius wrote:
I find it alarming that you are forced to keep it a secret in your real life btw. As how I see it you have nothing to feel guilty about. I hope your parents can look past their religion one day and see how ridiculous they are behaving.

Hopefully. It's not necessarily religious as much as it is confusion, worry and sadness (No more grandchildren etc). As for the secrecy, I'm told mostly that it's for my own safety, but I doubt it would be unsafe to tell a close teacher or friend... Anyway, I try not to worry. I find myself getting into the right community merely via the internet, so all's well that ends well.

You should tell a teacher, one that actually cares, perhaps they can help you, I find it horrible and cruel that some parents dislike it if there children arent straight, some of the stuff parents have done to stop it is just madness.

Tasjin wrote:Well, you got my support. As long as they don't exactly go around encouraging others to become homosexual or bisexual, s'fine by me. Just live your life the way you want to live it.

I don't support nor desupport. I'm nuetral, don't care. It's their lives, my life. One is, as you said, to live it the way one wants to!
But I frown at the family and or friends whom are pathetic enough to neglect their own loved ones for such a thing.


My ex is together with a girl now, I am happy aslong as she is, that's all that matters to me after breaking up with her. And she is happy, so I don't care gender of her desired to have feelings for.